Something Everyone Should Learn in Kindergarten

I’m not going to lie to you.  This is the first school book I have fully read since junior year of high school.  But honestly, it shouldn’t even count as a school book because it is not filled with a ridiculous amount of words you are constantly looking up in the back glossary and it is under 300 pages long (I read it in two days).

Anyone who will ever work in any sort of team setting (which is pretty much everyone) needs to read this book.  Patrick Lencioni does a wonderful job of illustrating a realistic fable of a business staff being set back by lack of communication and the inability to work as a cohesive team.  I can guarantee you that any of the students reading this post have worked on a group project with unresponsive and frustrating group members… and if you’re saying you haven’t, it’s probably because you’ve already read this book J

So, in order to function properly in a group setting you must avoid the five dysfunctions of a typical team:

Absence of trust

Fear of conflict

Lack of commitment

Avoidance of accountability

Inattention to results

1.  The base: Absence of Trust is seen in teams who fail to ask for help, provide constructive feedback, and hide their own weaknesses and mistakes from other members of the group.  When working on a team, make sure you take risks in offering feedback and suggestions.  Trust that your group will respect your input.

2.  Teams that fear conflict have painfully boring meetings.  Instead of getting information out in the open, they feel the need to discuss the situation behind other people’s backs (which ends up making the situation worse anyway).  In a meeting or group setting, don’t be afraid to bring up a point that may potentially be controversial.  It will ignite discussion, and who doesn’t like to debate about something they believe in?

3.  Lack of commitment in a group setting creates ambiguity among the team about direction and goals.  Make sure that everyone on the team knows what the overarching goal is, and stick to it!  Hold everyone responsible for their agreement to a specific goal, but make sure the priorities and direction are clear to everyone involved. 

4.  When a team avoids accountability, the standards of the group are instantly lowered.  Deadlines are missed, work is not completed to a satisfactory level, and resentment lingers throughout the team.  If someone in your group is not putting in the work that they should be, call them out on it!  It will make you a stronger leader, and the other member a stronger and more responsible worker.  Hold others accountable for their responsibilities to keep the standards of work high. 

5.  Inattention to results as a team is the separating factor between personal success and team success.  Prioritize where you want the results to lie; if you are focusing on your own individual goals, you are distancing yourself from your team.  Get rid of your ego and put your energy into the team’s results.

But since these are lessons we should have learned in kindergarten, here are the new "golden rules" of working on a team:

1. Ask for help when needed, and admit your mistakes.
2. Speak your mind and don’t be afraid to do so.
3. Know what you’re working for, and stick to it.
4. Put in effort, and make sure others are too
5. There is no ‘I’ in team

Read the book.  You'll thank me.  And so will your team.

A Sign of Hope

The Faribault Hope Center’s “Safeline” lends an ear to victims of domestic violence when no one else will listen

       In the midst of International Week for the Elimination of Violence Against Women, people everywhere have been stepping up to fight domestic violence.  Rallies, events, even a recent parade of men sporting an array of high heel shoes have all caught the attention of this continuing tragedy.  But while a stampede of men running around in red pumps is an incredible gesture to raise awareness of domestic violence, the only support the victims are getting by this spectacle is a good laugh while watching them trod down the racetrack.  Where events like this may draw attention to the issue but lack in emotional guidance for victims, the Hope Center in Faribault, Minnesota picks up the slack.

       The Hope Center is a nonprofit organization that helps victims of sexual assault and domestic violence.  Their 24-hour Safeline allows victims to contact the center whenever they need assistance, whether they are seeking advice, legal help, or simply someone who will listen.  “I feel like I am helping the cause by just being there,” David Lopez, a certified crisis counselor, says. “By doing something as simple as listening, you’re letting them [the victim] know that they are not alone.”  Lopez, a recent graduate of University of California at Berkeley, sought out the Hope Center to gain counseling experience for graduate school.  “When I came to Minnesota, I sought out organizations that would allow me to do some form of counseling,” He explains, “I came across the Hope Center and fell in love with their work.  I really feel like I am making a difference.”

       The mission of the Hope Center is to create zero-tolerance for sexual and domestic violence through healing, outreach, prevention, and education.  These four pillars are the foundation of the center.  Intense preparation for volunteers like Lopez revolves around these pillars, and a minimum of 40 hours of training is required to be a part of the Hope Center.  Representatives from women’s shelters, LGBT communities, domestic abuse victims, psychology professionals, and college professors of social welfare are all invited to work with the volunteers to discuss what to say to victims, how to handle difficult situations, and where to send victims for help or refuge.  “It is amazing how many sides to every story there are,” Lopez explains, “I have heard from victims who have overcome abuse, victims who are currently going through abuse, and abusers themselves who have gone through rehabilitation.  The healing process that the victims endure is inspirational.” 

       Community outreach is especially important to the Hope Center, because many people are not aware of what the center can offer.  “We get a lot of calls and requests for information in the fall because that is when the Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence Awareness campaign starts every year,” Lopez says, “It would be great to be able to maintain that awareness year-round, because there are a lot of victims who don’t have the voice to stand up for themselves when they feel they are not supported by the rest of the community.”  The Hope Center satisfies the education pillar of their mission statement by holding events and reaching out to schools in the Faribault area.  Local high schools distribute information from the center regarding sexual abuse and domestic violence to educate their students about the dangers of these issues and how to prevent them. 

       “The Candlelight Vigil at Faribault Central Park was without a doubt one of the most impactful experiences I have ever had in my life,” Lopez explains about the Hope Center outreach event that took place this past October.  Community members from all around the Faribault area participated in the event; each person was given a card with the name, age, and story of someone who had passed away from domestic violence.  Ages of the victims ranged from young children to elderly adults.  “It gave the community a chance to connect with those who have suffered abuse,” says Lopez.  Two speakers presented at the vigil; one was a survivor of domestic violence, the other was currently going through it.  Lopez believes that the entire event illustrated what the Hope Center does and how they help victims.  After the speakers presented their story, everyone who participated in the event lit a candle for each victim represented on the cards.  “It was very emotional.”

       As the end of the fall season draws near, the domestic abuse awareness campaigns also come to an end.  The Hope Center believes it is important for the community to still stand strong against sexual abuse and domestic violence throughout the year.  “It is important for others to support the Hope Center because their work is not something to be glossed over or forgotten,” Lopez says, “the Safeline is a support system for anyone who seeks help, and the amount of people committing their time to support these victims is incredible.”  At the center in Faribault, there are over 100 advocates who rotate shifts for the Safeline.  Each advocate is expected to commit to two six-hour shifts per month so the Safeline is always accessible to anyone who wishes to utilize it.  The most challenging part of the advocate’s job is when the victim has an issue that is difficult to solve, according to Lopez.  The Hope Center prepares the advocates and counselors for such circumstances by giving proper training and always having a back-up advocate leader a phone call away to address these situations.  By allowing a 24-hour service, the center opens up to all victims of sexual and domestic violence to reassure them that they are not alone. 

       “The most important thing to remember when volunteering is that you are not doing this for yourself," Lopez says.  He hopes that the Hope Center will continue to thrive in the future, hopefully by gaining momentum and spreading to other counties.  Community support though, is an important variable to its success.  “If a place like this were to lose its support or funding, what would happen to the countless number of victims who rely on these services for guidance?” he wonders.  “That’s a thought I hope never has to become a reality.”

Not Just Another Book Report...

       While reading Grown Up Digital by Don Tapscott, it really became clear to me how much the Net Generation (or my generation, I suppose…) utilizes the internet and other forms of technology for day to day tasks.  Tapscott opened my eyes at the benefits and criticisms of how my generation is dependent on the growing technology offered in society.  He gives easy to follow information for the baby boomer era on how to understand this new generation. 
       I completely understand the criticisms presented in books such as The Dumbest Generation.  Society has become obsessed with staying connected and the dependency on cell phones and laptops is being seen in children younger and younger.  On the other hand, does age really play such a big part in how in-tune you are with your surroundings?  I don’t think that your age makes you old.  I think that your inability to keep up with our ever changing society makes you older.  To those complaining about our dependency on technology and media, what do you use to stay in contact with your friends or family?  A cell phone?  A lap top?  It may not be a smart phone or a fancy MacBook, but fifty years ago someone sitting in your shoes may have been writing a critique about future society downfall because of its dependency on new technology.  
       Our generation might not know what the capital of Peru is.  But we know where to find the information, and we can come back with pages and pages of new facts on the country that ten seconds ago we knew nothing about.  We might not know how to change the oil in a car or knit a scarf, but in the click of a button we can find step-by-step instructions and master a technique right then and there.  So before you completely disregard our intelligence and accuse us of ignorance and stupidity, just take a minute to look how far we have come since ten years ago.  Or fifty.  Or a century ago.  Breakthroughs in science, going green, and maintaining relationships with those on opposite sides of the planet are incredible feats that us as human beings have accomplished.  So take a breath and relax.  The net generation isn’t all that bad.  We may even be able to do some good on this place we call earth.


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